Is there a war on women? or men? The culture has certainly shifted since 1960. Here is a feminist who has softened her views as she has aged (read: less desirable).
“But, as time passed — and my 20s became my 30s — I began to realize that when I told men I was independent and didn’t “need anyone,” many eventually backed off. That’s not to say I believe I should have been a damsel in distress to get my knight in shining armor. That’s just ridiculous, and it’s the other extreme. The point is, I was determined to be equal, and my 25-year-old self found even the most remote sign of needing a man to be a weakness; I wouldn’t let myself go there.”
Oh, I met her — many times. You think to yourself as the young Harpy is hammering you, “run away.” If you have to explain that you are equal, your really saying “Hi, I’m insecure.” If you have to say “I don’t need anyone,” then there is really no point in continuing the conversation outside of provoking an argument or masochism. The vast majority of men and women want each other at a level deep enough to approach need. Love gets us through a tough life.
Later on this comment by ‘TMG’:
“Feminists like to portray feminism as creating independent women. In fact, feminism has created highly dependent and spoiled brats who have simply traded being cared for by her daddy or her husband to being cared for by the Daddy Government.
Actual independent women would not be going into hysterics for government’s failure to provide $9.00 worth of free birth control. Actual independent women would not be comparing voting to losing their virginity to the President. Actual independent women would not demand gender quotas favoring them in places of employment. Actual independent women would not demand 100’s of billions of dollars worth of social services, health care, and educational grants available ONLY to them. Actual independent women would want to take care of themselves, instead of putting out for POTUS.
I don’t agree with Venker’s stance very much either, but at least she acknowledges that women want to be “cared for.” Feminists have simply voted and lobbied for a bigger, badder patriarchy to take care of them, while laughably feigning independence.”
If women want to be “cared for” men crave female affection and admiration they just don’t like to admit it.